Our Heavenly Father in His wisdom, will allow us to experience the result of our decisions. If we pay attention, consequences will instruct us. It’s one of the ways He grows us up and takes away negative, ungodly, and non-productive cycles in our lives.
That said, stop paying for other people’s habits, bills and self-defeating way of life; allow them to deal with the outcome of their choices. Some individuals need the lessons of life as an opportunity for growth and change.
There’s no sense in everybody suffering the negative domino effect due to people who aren’t ready. It is disheartening for those that are doing the right thing to experience the financial, emotional, and mental strain of trying to stay above water; only to end up stuck in “the poverty pit” with those who are living outside of God’s will for their lives. That is not the will of “the Father” for His children. Jesus came that we might have life and that more abundantly (John 10:10).
If “you” take care of your responsibilities, pay your bills, make sober choices, and so on; you deserve to experience peace, a “sense of accomplishment” as well as “the blessed life” that Jesus made possible for you. The simplest definition of the word blessed is to be empowered to succeed. The opposite is true related to the word cursed in its simplest form, which is to be empowered to fail. When Jesus came, He finished everything needed to be accomplished to make life right again for whosoever will. In doing so, He gave the opportunity for any curse to be broken off of our lives, for whosoever will. We all have a choice, even if those choices are limited due to a lack of knowledge, background and so on. Limitations can be the very thing that prompts us to seek His guidance when we don’t know the way. The alternative is to cycle around when we continue to go in our own way, our old or familiar way.
Break the Cycle
Again, why should everyone be stuck in “the poverty pot” together? You did not make the choices for the person who decides to go left when they needed to go right.
Stop enabling, live “your” life, enjoy the freedom of “your” decisions as you continue to move forward. We are not intended to live other people’s lives for them, they need to walk it out for themselves. That’s love, to allow them to do so. The opposite holds true when we attempt to fix people, we play a part in stunting their growth and crippling them. Moreover, we hurt ourselves. See how that works?
God loves us and even He will allow some situations to unfold and run their course; why can’t we? God’s love does what’s best for our “well-being” and our “greater good.” Therefore, why can’t we follow His pattern? Aren’t those of us who are God’s dear children supposed to imitate Him (Ephesians 5:1) anyway? It’s a matter of learning to let go and let God be God, or continue to take God’s place, suffer the pain and distress “as though” you are the one who is living outside of the will of God. Think about that.
Keep in mind we’re not doing them a favor, in the long run we’re doing them a disservice.
Know the difference
There is a difference in working together as a unit, having the same mind-set as everybody contributes; compared to one link in the chain having a different mindset. There’s a difference in banding together so everybody prospers vs enabling by paying for someone else’s habits, lifestyle or decisions. If we pay attention, consequences will instruct us.
Now whether you are the enabler; or that person who continues to engage in self-defeating behavior, there is hope and help for both. The Lord is always available to give us the power and wisdom to change direction. Philippians 2:13 reads; “For it is God that works in us both to will and do of His good pleasure.” Whatever the change needed, He can bring it about for the asking and willingness to do something different. Remember Jesus encouraged Paul by telling him something that applies to all of us, 2 Corinthians 12:9a “My grace (ability) is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” In other words, Jesus’ power increases for us and in us where we’re weak, limited, don’t know, or fall short.
Either way, the choice is always ours.
Keep in mind, even our Heavenly Father in all his love and wisdom will allow us to choose, He will attempt to direct us, yet He won’t force or stop us. In so doing, it’s His way to allow for growth and change. Are there times we even need His grace to do the same?
Wisdom begets wisdom!
Until next time God bless you,
Sister Bea
(Note: this blog was taken from my Life Lines site lifelines110.com, it was originally written August 30, 2019 – Author, Beatrice Jackson).
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